I belong to a BDSM website. While I have been a member there for a while now, the profile currently there is my second one since the first was eaten by the world wide cobweb never to be seen again. I have no D/s things in my "checklist". Why??? I am way more than a checklist, and if a D/M chooses to use that to gain whether I am the "right one" for him or not then I am definitely NOT the one for him.
This is part of an email I received from one of the D/M's who wrote to me:
"....You certainly seem to know what you want in the Dom area but how do you expect a Dom to know what you might be interested in concerning the BDSM lifestyle with none listed? I think that an idea of that might let a person know how compatible they might be. Care to list some of your interests, likes or limits?..."
This is how I responded to this email, which he deleted without reading:
"I refuse to be judged by the items I check off on a list. It is not who I am as a woman. The parts of me that should interest you more are my eyes, the way they look up at you when I am kneeling at your feet, my heart which bursts with joy when you praise me, and hurts when i have done something to displease you, and my soul which i allow you to protect while wearing your collar. The checklists mean nothing if there is nothing else behind it."
D/s is about two people who make up the checklist as they go along, sure there are the basic things on it for both of them, but the rest of it is their own to create, edit at will, and keep evolving as the relationship changes. No one but the two involved in it can change it, no two lists are alike unless they have run it through a copier at the local Kinko's.
Like I have stated before in this blog, it begins with a word, then a sentence, then a paragraph, then a chapter, then a novel, and at the end of life a tome. Always take quality over quantity, never sell yourself short. And ALWAYS be true to yourself.
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